Everyone’s body is different, there’s no one ‘right’ way to feel aroused or have an orgasm. A lot of people with vulvas have orgasms through sexual arousal by stimulating their clitoris, but not by penetrating their vagina during sexual intercourse. Some don’t experience female orgasms through their vagina at all. All of these differences are normal.
It’s healthy to explore your body and figure out what feels good to you. So here is everything you need to know about the big O!
Q1. What is an orgasm?
An orgasm is the peak of sexual arousal. This is when all the muscles that are tightened during sexual intercourse eventually relax. It feels so good because of the chemical release of Dopamine, Oxytocin, and Prolactin that make you feel relaxed, peaceful, satisfied, and bonded to your partner.
Q2. How can it be achieved for men and women?
It can happen in different ways for different people. It ranges from a sexual thought or sexual intercourse led by foreplay, masturbation, and the acts of oral, vaginal, or anal sex. Stimulation of certain parts of the body by your partner, yourself, or even sex toys can help you have a climax.
Q3. What is a G-Spot and can it help?
The female G spot, or Gräfenberg spot, is located a few inches inside the vagina on its upper wall. The male g-spot is located inside their anus and can be highly pleasurable for them. It’s a highly sensitive part of the body and stimulating the G spot can lead to intense sexual arousal and orgasm for certain people.
Q4. What are the different types of female orgasms?
- Clitoral orgasm: This orgasm is achieved when a female’s clitoris is stimulated.
- Vaginal orgasm: This is caused by stimulation of the female G-spot & direct/indirect stimulation of the clitoris, or both.
- Exercise-induced orgasms: This can occur while a woman undergoes abdominal-focused exercises especially cardio & weight training.
- Orgasms while sleeping: By sexual dreams or stimulation caused by bedding.
- Stimulation-based: When you or your partner stimulates sensitive areas of your body like nipples, anus, etc.
Q5. What are the different types of male orgasms?
- Ejaculatory orgasm: When a man gets an erection, blood flows to the penis, making it grow and rigid. A series of contractions of the pelvic floor muscles and prostate gland cause semen to flow through the urethra, making him ejaculate.
- Blended orgasm: When multiple areas of your body are touched and pleasured at the same time. It is also known as a whole-body orgasm.
- Wet Dream: This involuntary orgasm occurs while sleeping because of a dream, which may or may not be erotic.
- Prostate orgasm: When a man’s prostate or male P-spot is stimulated. It needs to be handled with care with a lubed index finger as it is located in the anus.
- Dry orgasm: When men orgasm without ejaculation.
Q6. Will you always orgasm during sex?
Not really, some men and women can orgasm during sex but others may not have one every time they have sex. It’s also true that some women may not have an orgasm with vaginal sexual intercourse but with other types of sex. Many women experience them in different ways, and they can feel different for an individual woman at different times.
Q7. How can you have one if you’ve never had one?
An orgasm is not the endpoint of sex for everyone and different women have different methods which turn them on. The fun of sex is in self-exploration, so let go and enjoy whatever the endpoint may be. You can try masturbation, clitoral stimulation, and G-point stimulation. Clitoral vibrators and sex toys also help you to have one.
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