The lights are dim, you’re wearing something that makes you feel sexy, and you feel your partner’s hand softly caressing you. Everything is perfect for a wonderful night together but one question looms at large, the one about STDs or sexually transmitted diseases. There is no getting around it, having sexual intercourse means talking to your partner about sexually transmitted diseases.
You may think talking about STDs kills the mood but in reality, nothing kills the mood worse than getting an STD.
Here are a few tips to help you talk to your partner about it:
- Accept that it’s going to be awkward and that’s okay!
Calm your nerves and remember that having or not having an STD is not a matter of morals or values, it is just a disease. If you still feel awkward, write down the points you want to address with your partner and practice having the conversation with yourself. This will really help you become comfortable talking about the subject, especially if you are shy.
- Do your research
Learn more about the different types of STDs, and how to deal with them. Not all STDs are life-threatening terrible diseases, and most can be cured quite easily, and it doesn’t have to mean they cheated. The more you know the better you will be prepared for the conversation.
- Create a comfortable and judgment-free zone
Unless it’s a one-night stand, don’t just spring this conversation on your partner. Spend some time together, and build a level of trust before asking. Pick a time when neither of you will be distracted or interrupted.
- The conversation doesn’t have to be perfect or formal
Think of it as just another conversation to get to know your partner more, like asking them about their childhood or their allergies. Just make sure you are honest, and willing to accept the answers your partner gives you.
Having a conversation about STDs can be awkward and stressful, but it is an important responsibility of all sexually active adults. Having full information about what you are getting into is a right and important factor in establishing consent before sex.
Although it is a difficult conversation, no one wants to be on either side of a positive STD or STI test. But trust me, both you and your partner will be happier to clear the air when you take charge of your intimate health and stay safe while enjoying each other’s intimate company.
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